I propose one area of improvement we can all stand to think about and that is our behavior. (And I’m sure that those who know me might have guessed as much.)
Yes, our behavior is a very important determinant of how our lives end up looking and feeling to us on a day to day basis. Our interactions with others as well as the way we treat ourselves has everything to do with how happy or unhappy we end up feeling.
So here’s a simple lesson from my own experiences, both professionally as a psychiatrist, as well as personally as a husband, father, friend, and Joe-Shmoe within my own life:
Whenever I’m tempted to judge someone or something, it is often because either a) I don’t know enough, or b) something inside of me is being triggered personally.
The reason this is so important is that many of our judgements come from one or both of these places and not necessarily from the truth.
So the next time you’re tempted to make a judgement about someone or about a circumstance in your life, pause.
Ask yourself if you can hold off on that judgement for just a little while longer; just long enough to learn a little more about the person or thing, or to learn a little bit more about how you are being triggered and what is going on personally for you.
With that, I want to wish you a very Happy, Healthy New Year!
Anthony Ferraioli, M.D.
Author, Don’t Get Married! (Unless You Understand a Few Things First)